Getting burned hurts...

You know, I never realized how much getting burned by a guy can really affect you. You are way more careful around guys. You don't have much patience for them, and they piss you off real easily. I mean, I've even gotten sick of watching those dating shows (i.e. Blind Date, Elimidate, Next, The Fifth Wheel, etc.). The whole experience has made me not trust guys at all. Always wondering if they have an ulterior motive or if they're just being sincere. Answer...they always have an ulterior motive, whether they know it or not. The trick is, identifying that motive, and not playing into it. Unfortunately, that's easier said than done.

My dad told me to always trust my gut. I have found this advice to be quite helpful. If you have even the slightest inclination that they're just using you, or just that this is a bad situation, don't get into it. I only wish I had known that before. I sure would have saved myself alot of pain, stress, and emotional damage. But, had it not happened now, it would have just happened sooner. I guess it's better to have learned things, then to have not learned them.

So, many times, when a women has been hurt or "burned" by a man, and she says that she wishes it had never happened, I think that deep down she knows that she has learned something. Atleast that's how it is for me. I guess I can't really speak for all women. For me, when something happens, I try to count it as a learning experience, and I try and move on with my life. That's the best you can do. Most learning situations can be painful. Dwelling on them can just make matters worse. Just think, you've learned fromthis situation, which means that you can make sure that it never happens again. For me, that's what I'll do. I'll count it as a learning experience and move on. I'll just be more wary of the men I choose to get emotionally involved with.